📩 In Today’s Email

• TL;DR: What if the best parenting move… is leaving the country?

• The Deep Dive: A kitchen in Sweden, a five-year-old with perfect English, and the case for raising your kids abroad.

• The Read: The Nordic Theory of Everything reframes freedom, parenting, and what modern life should feel like.

• The Stream: A Japanese TV show proves toddlers can handle errands, public transit, and independence better than some adults.

🤿 The Deep Dive

We're sitting in Andreas' family's kitchen in northern Sweden.

Everything is carved from blonde Swedish wood, the cabinets, counters, even the ceiling beams, all sourced from the forests surrounding this timber town. The whole space feels warm and lived-in.

Andreas pulls out a bottle of some horrific licorice schnapps and starts pouring shots for everyone. Even the kids get one.

The only reason the youngest (maybe five years old) doesn't get one isn't because he's not allowed, but because he has smelled this rank stuff before and shakes his head in disgust. Smart kid.

Before we drink, Andreas makes us repeat some traditional Swedish toast.

I swear, when I asked for the translation afterward, it was something like "If I don't finish this entire shot in one go, all my family will go to hell."

Just some Viking curse disguised as a fun drinking ritual.

Skål, ta mig fan! Indeed.

I notice the youngest, politely sitting at the table like a little adult, reacting to my comments with little smirks and curious head tilts.

He seems to be following along, but they tell me he doesn’t speak English. Yet.

But, he sure looks like he understands.

Finally, I address him, like calling out a spy: "You speak English, don't you?"

"Yes, I speak English," he says simply.

The entire table erupts. Andreas nearly spits out his schnapps. The whole family starts laughing in disbelief. He had never spoken English before, not once.

This kid had been quietly building a complete language system in his head, understanding everything.

Over the next two hours, we talk about the differences in family life between the U.S. and Scandinavia.

The kids participate naturally, comfortable with complex adult conversations because they've always been included. No baby talk. No shooing them away. They’re part of the rhythm.

What struck me wasn’t just their multilingual ease; it was how the Swedish parents described raising them. Unstructured independence. The kids were trusted to develop naturally, and they did.

No helicopter hovering.
No standardized testing stress by age four.
No frantic scheduling of violin, swimming, and Mandarin.
Yes to free-range wandering and general playtime.

They seem allowed to live first.

Swedish parents trust their children's brains to do what brains do: absorb, process, learn, without constant intervention or performance anxiety.

And that’s when it hit me:
American parenting feels like survival mode because we've designed it that way.

The Real Reason Parents Are Going Global

Not everyone leaves the U.S. for cheaper rent or palm trees. Some do it for something deeper. Slower. More human.

Here's what you discover when you step outside the American parenting bubble:

Life Becomes Living, Not Logistics

In walkable cities abroad, your daily rhythm changes. Kids walk to school, you stroll to markets, errands become neighborhood encounters.

Instead of worrying about car seat logistics for every outing, you move through life at a human pace. You notice things. You talk to people.

Shorter workweeks and longer weekends aren't lifestyle choices, they're cultural infrastructure. You're not fighting for family time or scheduling your children like appointments. The systems are designed to support actual family life.

Restaurants welcome kids. Children play in plazas at 10 PM without judgment.

You're not constantly apologizing for your child's existence or managing other people's irritation. Parenting feels like participating in community life, not disrupting it.

The Cognitive Advantages Are Real

Kids raised in multicultural environments develop enhanced problem-solving abilities, greater empathy, and superior executive function. They don't just tolerate ambiguity; they thrive in complexity.

That five-year-old absorbing English? His brain was simultaneously processing multiple linguistic systems, building cognitive flexibility that will serve him forever.

Cultural differences don't just enrich experience. They expand intelligence.

You Rediscover Who You Are as a Parent

But here's what nobody tells you about the biggest change: it's not just what happens to your kids. It's what happens to you.

When you're not endlessly battling systems designed to make family life harder, you remember what parenting actually feels like. You stop managing and start enjoying. You have conversations instead of giving instructions. You laugh more and worry less.

That humming background stress of American family logistics disappears. No insurance deductibles hanging over every doctor visit. No car seat choreography for simple errands. No guilt about screen time when kids are naturally engaged with the world around them.

You parent from your values instead of your fears.

In France, quality daycare is subsidized. In Germany, university is essentially free. In Portugal, preschool comes at no cost. Parents can focus on parenting instead of financial survival.

Your Options (Easier Than You Think)

The biggest myth about raising kids abroad is that it's complicated or expensive. Reality check: it's often dramatically cheaper and simpler than American family life.

Extended Stays (3-6 months): Rent an apartment in Portugal for what you'd pay for daycare in major U.S. cities. Kids attend local school (often free), learn the language, and develop friendships. You maintain your business remotely while healthcare costs drop to nearly zero.

Year Abroad Programs: Many families take sabbatical years in places like Costa Rica, Thailand, or Italy. Private international schools cost less than American public school property taxes. Long enough for real language acquisition and cultural integration, short enough to feel reversible.

Multi-Year Relocations: Two to four years in different countries. Kids become truly bilingual, develop international friend networks, gain citizenship options for the future. University education in many European countries costs a fraction of American tuition, sometimes nothing!

Full Expatriation: Complete relocation with no planned return date. Maximum integration, maximum benefits, maximum commitment.

People assume international moves require massive resources. In reality, removing American healthcare premiums, childcare costs, and education expenses often makes living abroad more affordable than staying put.

The Parenting Skills You Can't Learn at Home:

Scandinavian risk assessment philosophy. Asian approaches to persistence and mastery. European models of work-life integration. These aren't cultural curiosities. They're frameworks your children will internalize forever.

Kids gain independence that American helicopter culture rarely allows. They walk to school alone, navigate public transit, run errands, develop genuine competence and confidence.

What they consider "normal" becomes their baseline for what's possible.

In much of the world, time with your children is considered a national investment. In the U.S., it’s treated like a personal inconvenience.

Why This Matters for High-Agency Parents

You didn't choose conventional paths in business or career because you wanted to optimize for everyone else's definition of success.

So why accept everyone else's definition of "good parenting"?

Your children's memories will be fundamentally different.

Instead of remembering childhood as scheduled activities and academic pressure, they'll remember conversations with elderly neighbors in broken language, the taste of fresh bread from corner bakeries, the freedom of exploring safe cities on foot.

The global perspective becomes their competitive advantage.

They'll enter adulthood with language skills, cultural fluency, and cognitive flexibility that their peers spent decades trying to develop. They'll see opportunities where others see obstacles.

That Swedish five-year-old is growing up thinking multilingual dinner conversations are normal. That walking to school alone is normal. That adults having time for children is normal.

The question isn't whether you can afford to raise kids abroad.

The question is whether you can afford not to.

😏 The Meme

📢 Newsletter News

1. 1. A Texas Nomad just got a structural glow-up. The biggest change? We gave Rio his own corner. A chaotic, charming break between essays and strategies. Let us know what you think in the comments at the end! 👇

2. We now offer an audio version of the newsletter: listen on the go (or while walking through Medellín dusk).

3. WhereBot is officially in beta, now available on mobile as your go‑to nomad city matchmaker.

🌎 Visa Watch

🇪🇸 Spain is expanding its Digital Nomad Visa, now open to more global applicants with streamlined processing, one-year renewable stays, and tax perks under the Startup Act. It’s becoming one of the most accessible entry points to long-term EU living.

🇵🇭 Philippines is set to launch a 12‑month Digital Nomad Visa under Executive Order No. 86, opening applications this June, renewable for a second year.

🇸🇮 Slovenia will launch its first Digital Nomad Visa on November 21, 2025: a one-year, non‑renewable permit for non‑EU/EEA nationals working for foreign companies.

🇳🇿 New Zealand is relaxing visitor visa rules to allow up to nine months of remote work tourism, appealing especially to high‑earning nomads and influencers

🤓 The Read - The Nordic Theory of Everything

There’s a meme about a Scandinavian Breaking Bad. Instead of turning to meth, the protagonist sees a doctor, gets therapy, and applies for income support: crisis averted.

The joke works because it exposes a truth: much of American suffering is systemic, not personal.

That’s the thesis of The Nordic Theory of Everything. Anu Partanen, a Finnish journalist who moved to the U.S. and married an American, reveals not just cultural contrast but structural dissonance.

We love to talk about freedom and opportunity. But today, American life often feels like managing a disaster. One divorce, pregnancy, or illness can trigger financial collapse. Parenting becomes a logistical crisis. Even the idea of asking for help feels taboo.

The U.S. is one of the few high-income countries with zero mandated paid parental leave. Finland offers 480 days. Estonia? 85 weeks. That’s not a small difference. That’s a different worldview.

Partanen pushes back on the idea that Nordic countries are “nanny states.” Finland is a capitalist democracy with deep historical independence, fighting off the Soviet Union in the Winter War. It’s a lean, efficient society where trust in institutions is high and systems are designed for empowerment, not punishment.

And they’re not economically weak. Sweden gave us Spotify and Ikea. Finland gave us Nokia and Angry Birds. And we all know LEGO comes from Denmark.

These are capitalist economies with universal healthcare, digitized tax systems, and high levels of social trust. That trust enables simplicity: no medical bankruptcies, no 50-page tax filings, no panic over childcare or vacation.

Partanen doesn’t suggest perfection. Nordic countries aren’t utopias. But they’ve embraced modernity. In her words, America has clung to the form of freedom while losing the function. Liberty is meaningless when your life is one crisis away from collapse.

The book isn’t anti-American. It’s pro-intelligence. It asks: what if we borrowed what works? What if freedom meant having time for your family? What if parenting didn’t feel like failure prevention?

For high-agency readers, this is more than a critique: it’s a blueprint. Not to abandon American ambition, but to evolve it.

To design systems that reflect the world we actually live in.

🦜 Rio’s Corner

🍿 The Stream - Old Enough (Netflix)

Once again, we turn to the Japanese for the most outlandish and quietly profound idea in the history of television.

Old Enough is a reality show where toddlers (real ones, barely old enough to speak in full sentences) are sent out alone to complete errands for their parents.

Yes. You read that correctly.

A camera crew, disguised as passersby, follows them as they carry out their missions: buying bread, picking up dry cleaning, or delivering a forgotten lunch box. In one episode, a kid takes the train to the ferry and the ferry to the pharmacy… to get cold medicine. He’s four.

Then we flash forward 20 years and, as adults, we watch them get married. For real.

The show is funny, emotional, even absurd at times, but what it reveals is stunning: children are resilient. They’re capable. And given trust, they rise to meet it.

Watching Old Enough as a parent (or future parent, or curious human) forces a reset. It strips away our Western anxieties and shows us what’s possible when you design a culture that doesn’t fear its own children, or the world they walk through.

It’s not just good TV. It’s a challenge. Would you trust your kid with a bus route and a shopping list?

🛤️ Outtro

Reinvention begins not with where you land, but with what you make.

Every place is a blank page. What you write there? That’s your legacy.

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